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Is there power in positive thinking ??

In the world today many people believe that when you have a positive mind it can have power in what they desire in life. Others believe that a total lack of influence is a better way to go about life.  There is power in positive thinking but it has a certain extent. This can be shown by how positive thinking can help and be powerful towards school, health, and relationships.

                When people think positive about their education it is more likely that they would want to do well in school and get good grades. When you begin to have negative thoughts about school it is easier to lose you track of focus and desire.  Your destination can get blurred because you have lost that reason of why need school to help you get throughout life. If people think to themselves that they are going to finish school and get a good education, it would be easier to follow the goal and be successful.

Positive thinking does have some power over your health. Thinking positive to eat healthy and properly can have a great affect on your life for the present and future. It helps you attain a good eating system and get all the nutrients your body needs. We all know that we go after the junk and fast food, but if we have positive thinking we can find a way to retain from it, and eat right.  Positive thinking can also have power when fighting against diseases and disorders. Although it cannot heal the sickness, it can help build a level of happiness while people go through their sickness.

In relationships many people want that “right” person for themselves and a prince charming to arrive at their front door. In thinking positive about someone coming into your life right then and there is not so much of the way to go about love, but thinking positive about someone loving you for you, and who you truly are, can have the power for you to not settle for less than what you give.

Positive thinking is powerful but has certain limits. It can help in school, health, and relationships to better your life so you can achieve and be happy.

Draft on Phamaceutical Drugs =]

In today’s society many people face different obstacles that can increase anxiety and depression in their life. Many times when people are diagnosed with depression  they are prescribed antidepressants from their doctor or therapist. People who are depressed take antidepressants to achieve a higher level of happiness but at times it can have good and bad outcomes.  By evaluating how antidepressants can increase happiness, the bad results of antidepressants, and how people with mild depression diagnosis‘ can attain happiness without medication.

People with depression and anxiety suffer from a life style of discouragement and despair. Doctors  prescribe medications such as antidepressants, that help with depression,  so that patients can feel better and are able to do everyday  work. Many people who have taken or take anti depressants say that it helped them be stable and get well in life. They have also said that their happiness level increased greatly due to the medication. They knew not only by the doctors sayings, but of how they felt inside and their internal increase of  delight.  Andrea Nicki explains, “ With faith in our bodily wisdom, surely we can know when a drug for any illness seems to be helping or not without a doctors “expert” opinion” (59). People should realize when medication works on their body and if it is really helping them in their life.  They should also really determine if the drug is really what they need to get well in life, and is it going to bring them the stability that they long for.

Although many people believe that antidepressant drugs help them increase their contentment, others believe that it can cause harm to your body due to suicide thoughts and negative side effects.  Some side effects of anti depressants are nausea, weight gain or loss, fatigue, tremors, and anxiety. Some of these effects go away after a while but some can last for a long time and even get worst.  People 65 or older, teens and adolescents and pregnant women have certain risk factors that are also harmful for themselves if they take antidepressants.  At times anti depressants can even increase depression and increase the thought of suicide. With people knowing these effects of antidepressants they should really consider if the medication would help them overcome depression. “ I wonder though if my depression is “unbearable” without medication only because I know that this medication exist, states Greg Critser  (40). Some people believe that only medication can help them face their depression, but there are other ways and activities that can also increase happiness and decrease depression.

                People who are diagnosed with depression have other ways to  gain happiness without medication. Not all people who are depressed  need medication to feel better and acquire happiness. If their doctor evaluates them and they need anti depressants for them to be able to do everyday activities then they can take anti depressants and also use other ways to help them with their depression. Some people depend  on only medication to help them defeat depression, but Andrea Nicki states, “ Anti depressants should be used only as one tool among others for facilitating a woman’s happiness”  (59). People can take talk therapy, which can help people say how they feel and get their emotions out. Take walks, Get enough sleep at night and if possible play a sport or hobby.  Light therapy is used for those who have seasonal depression. This can help by the exposure of light from a light therapy box because it helps control biochemical changes in the brain that effects certain kinds of depression. Also by keeping positive thoughts and having someone to confine in, people can slowly but surely over come depression and increase happiness.

                Anti depressant drugs can help people who are depressed  gain happiness.  People should always seek to find if a medication is really doing its job in making them overcome their sickness.  Even though anti depressants can lift a person up, there is also a chance that it can bring them down. Anti depressants have some harmful side effects and if  a person is considering taking them they should take into part that they can have some other challenges along with defeating depression.  People can use anti depressants to help them increase happiness along with taking therapy and keeping out negative thoughts. This can show that good and bad outcomes can occur by taking anti depressants to increase ones happiness in life.

Pharmaceutical Drugs

Thesis: To attain happiness, people who are depressed take anti depressant drugs that can cause both good and bad outcomes.

1) Pharma is developing drugs for the most distressing disease of all: Life

2)How Happy We Will Be

Adams,Mike. Pharma is developing drugs for the most distressing disease of all:Life. NaturalNews. June 22, 2006
http://www.naturalnews.com/0Editor of NaturalNews.com  19443_fictitious_diseases_health_empowerment.html

#1 This article explains that the pharmaceutical industry just wants to profit off anti depressants and at times these pills are not helpful to ones happiness. It also describes how people believe that only to take anti depressant pills is the way to achieve happiness.

Cultivating Happier Relationships

In life many people want to have a strong and stable romantic relationship. When couples love and accept each other for who they are, it can lead to a healthier and better relationship. People can be happier in their romantic relationships by building a solid foundation based on each other’s character and identity. By evaluating each other’s core self, validation vs. knowing and time spent together can be show how relationships can be happier.

            When we are in love with that special person or significant other at times we are afraid to show our true self. We are afraid of what they might think or how they might look upon us.  Our core self is our true character deep down inside where all our desires dreams and interest lies. This is what makes us who are. Demir Melikşah studied that, “Higher levels of romantic relationship quality was related to higher levels of identity information.” (p210) When we show that loved one this precious gift inside of us we want them to accept it. If they do not then it can lead to us not wanting to be our selves around them. We would feel shy to do things, or feel that we might say the wrong thing at times. When that person accepts our core self it gives us the motivation and comfort to be ourselves around them because we know that they love us for who we truly are. Even if we were to do something awkward or like the weirdest things we would not be looked at anyway because we would be accepted. Tal Ben-Shahar states, “To be loved for our wealth, power, or fame is to be loved conditionally; to be loved by our steadfastness, intensity, or warmth is to be loved unconditionally.” (p114) To have unconditional love depends on your love for the other person’s core self. By knowing your partner’s core self can help bring more happiness in your relationship and start off on a good foundation.

            In building a stronger and happier relationship people need to want to be known than validated. Schnarch says, “To cultivate genuine intimacy the focus in a relationship must shift from the desire to be validated- seeking approval and praise- to the desire to be known.”(p119)  The process of being known never ends because it is that persons passions and desires.  Most people when they are in a relationship they want to be approved by their partner and they validate themselves. They feel that they need the admiration from that person. It is not until they want to be discovered for whom they are that they can grow with their partner. We can cultivate our intimacy by knowing and being known. We can then deepen our intimacy by acting on our knowledge of one another-engaging in activities that are meaningful and pleasurable to ourselves as well as to our partner. (Tal Ben-Shahar p121) In my relationship, my boyfriend loves to bowl almost every weekend. I enjoy bowling but at times I would rather catch a movie. After a few times of going bowling with him the quality time we shared started to mean a lot to me. It meant more than just throwing a ball down a lane. He showed me tricks and different styles to bowling. It brought us closer and now I can actually bowl better. It gave me pleasure to indulge in an activity we both liked and we both received a good experience from it. Doing activities you and your partner enjoy, can help create a better understanding of each other’s passions and identity.

            Spending more time with a loved one can always help bring happiness into your relationship. If both people in the relationship work all day and do not share anytime together it can cause damage to the relationship. Also their happiness level with each other would decrease. This can cause stress on the relationship and it can be difficult to grow with your partner if this occurs. Alan K. Goodboy and etc., suggests that if there is satisfaction lacking in a relationship it can cause the couple to engage in unfavorable behaviors. (p 74) There are many distractions in our world that can cause us to forget about spending time with a significant other. The internet, work, or even chores can play a role in relationships where each partner does not spend enough time together. If we do not take the time out of our everyday busy lives for a significant other it can cause the relationship to become distant and unhealthy. Although this causes some downfall in the relationship “unhappiness does not have to be permanent.” (qtd. in Kimbrough) There are some ways in which partners can spend time together while doing a chore or an activity. When cooking dinner if both partners make the meal together it can be more fun and exciting. You would be killing two birds with one stone by making dinner, and spending quality time with your partner. When you have to do house chores instead of one person cleaning you can divide the work, one can do the dishes and the other vacuum. It can be a fun cleaning day. Even nice long walks in a park or around your neighborhood can help bring you closer to your partner and bring happiness in your relationship because it gives you the opportunity to talk about each other’s past, and future goals. Aristotle states, “Happiness then is the best, noblest and most pleasant thing in the world.” We all want happiness and especially with the person we want to spend the rest of lives with, so therefore doing meaningful activities or errands together can help bring forth a happier and stronger relationship.

            When you love someone for their inner qualities it builds a stronger romantic relationship. Being able to express yourself and feel comfortable with your partner creates a special bond that will base on each other’s identity. At times people may feel that they need to be praised and approved by their partner, but they cannot actually have a solid foundation if the relationship goes by validations. When you spend quality time with your romantic partner it can create a better relationship and you are able to grow with your partner to the next level.  These findings are all ways on how a romantic relationship can be happier and develop with a sturdy foundation based on each other’s identify and character.

Blog 7 Thankful & Grateful

     Thanksgiving is almost near and I am grateful for many things in my life. Thanksgiving is a time where me and my family come together and have a great time sharing each other’s presence and what we are thankful for.  I am grateful for life for starters. Having the opportunity to walk this earth and breathe is truly a blessing. I am thankful for God giving me such a wise and gifted grandmother to raise me and show me the right way to live. I am grateful for each and every one of my sisters because in their own special way they teach me how to be a better person.  I am thankful for my cousins and extended family because they bring me joy and laughter. I am thankful for my lovely dogs because they keep me smiling.  I am thankful to have clothes, water, food, and shelter, because they are many people out there in the world who are unfortunate and do not have those necessities.  I am thankful for my best friends, who are always there for me, and give me good advice. Last but not least I am thankful for the world.

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In life many people strong and stable romantic relationship. When couples love and accept each other for who they are, it can lead to a healthier and better relationship. People can be happier in their relationships by building a solid foundation based on each other’s character. By evaluating each other’s core self, validation vs. knowing and time spent together can be shown how relationships can be happier.

            When we are in love with that special person or significant other at times we are afraid to show our true self. We are afraid of what they might think or how they might look upon us.  Our core self is our true character deep down inside where all our desires dreams and interest lies.  This is what makes us who are. When we show that loved one this precious gift inside of us we want them to accept it. If they do not then it can lead to us not wanting to be our selves around them. We would feel shy to do things, or feel that we might say the wrong thing. When that person accepts our core self it gives us the motivation and comfort to be ourselves around them because we know that they love us for who we truly are. That even if we do something awkward or like the weirdest things we will not be looked at anyway because no matter what we are accepted. Tal Ben-Shahar states, “To be loved for our wealth, power, or fame is to be loved conditionally; to be loved by our steadfastness, intensity, or warmth is to be loved unconditionally.” To have unconditional love depends on your love for the other person’s core self. By knowing your partner’s core self can help bring more happiness in your relationship.

            In building a stronger and happier relationship people need to want to be known than validated. Schnarch says, “To cultivate genuine intimacy the focus in a relationship must shift from the desire to be validated- seeking approval and praise- to the desire to be known.”  The process of being known never ends because it is that persons passions and desires.  Most people when they are in a relationship they want to be approved by their partner and they validate themselves. They feel that they need the admiration from that person and it is not until they want to be discovered for whom they are that can grow with their partner. We can cultivate our intimacy by knowing and being known. We can then deepen our intimacy by acting on our knowledge of one another-engaging in activities that are meaningful and pleasurable to ourselves as well as to our partner. (Tal Ben-Shahar p121)

            Spending more time with a loved one can always help bring happiness into your relationship. If both people in the relationship are rat racers they would not be happy in the long run because they would always work for the present. Also they would not spend as much time together. This can cause stress on the relationship and it can be difficult to grow.